How to deal with scepticism and abuse

Within this blog, I explain the downsides of mediumship and spiritual practices where people who do not believe in what we do find it amusing or justified to write abusive messages online or abuse you in the street. I explain what I have done to deal with such actions and my strengths to manage my mental health and not let it affect me or my work.

Online abuse:

Like many people, I have been a victim of online abuse and criticism. Understandably, some people don’t believe in what I do, and I can understand why they feel that it’s not right or they feel like I’m taking advantage of people who are either grieving due to the loss of their loved one or need some help and direction within their life. However, that gives them no right to write abusive or harmful content.

As time has gone on, I have grown a thick skin, and I don’t even bother reading the comments that some people write. Over the past couple of years, I have given a few interviews on YouTube, podcasts on Spotify, and Facebook. I have had to deal with quite a lot of abuse and scepticism aimed at me. The truth is, if anyone questions me about what I do, I give them an answer as I defend what I do and what I believe in.

How to deal with abuse or trolling:

1. Block anybody and any account that writes abusive content or sends you abusive messages.

2. When advertising on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and so on, try your best not to read the comments as they are full of trolls and fake accounts with people who have nothing better to do with their time than to troll.

3. As difficult as it sounds, feel pity for those who troll and abuse as they’ve got nothing better to do with their time than to try to upset and offend others.

4. Grow a thick skin. Trolling is always going to be present, and there will always be somebody who wants to bring you down or just has nothing better to do with their time.

Acceptance from friends and family:

As we are all individuals, we have the right to believe in what we want and do what we want with our lives. No matter what your beliefs, religion, or interests are, your true friends will always stand by your side, regardless of whether they believe in what you believe in or not. The same goes for family.

Personally, I keep my beliefs and opinions to myself. If somebody questions me or asks me about them, I’m open to talking about it, but I never force upon anybody what I believe in or bring it up in a conversation, as my beliefs are very personal. Even as a full-time working psychic medium, it’s not something that I talk about often.

Every family is different, and each situation is unique. Personally, I have seen most families embrace their loved ones who are interested in or participate in mediumship or spiritual activities without much trouble. Also, I am aware of relationships, such as man and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend, where one does not believe in the other’s faith, yet they manage to make things work out fine.


Not all sceptics are abusive, nor do they want to bring you down; some are actually very open-minded but just want to be given solid proof and evidence. It’s something that I think will never be proven that there is life after death; however, science is beginning to discover that there is consciousness beyond matter. There are many things that science cannot prove, but also they cannot disprove.

I have sceptics who come to me for readings from time to time. Many of them are very open-minded and really want to have some proof that there is life after death. I prefer people to be sceptical and not believe everything they hear from everybody else; making up your own mind is vital, and your own belief system in life is crucial.

The spirit world is very diverse, and even as a medium, it sometimes blows my mind at the possibilities and capabilities that spirits have in communicating and for some of the messages that they are able to pass on.

How to deal with your mental health when being trolled and abused:

The truth is, that trolls and online bullies are cowards. They would not do it face-to-face with you in the street, nor would they do it in front of other people. Many of them do not even have Facebook profile pictures, or they use fake accounts with fake names. Over the years, I have received messages telling me to go and kill myself, I have had religious people telling me that I’m going to burn in hell for eternity, people threatening to murder me. I have had many people tell me that I am scamming and abusing vulnerable people, but that is expected in this work.

Again, growing a thick skin is all you can do, and blocking the people who write and send this abuse is always a must. I also receive prank phone calls from people thinking they’re being funny, but that is another thing that you have to deal with, among many emails, Facebook, and YouTube messages from accounts that you have to delete or block.

It does not matter who you are or what work you do; there will always be someone who sends abuse. I have seen people writing abusive messages on all kinds of accounts, from sales accounts such as gym equipment to clothing brands, mocking people’s body images or accents to very personal attacks. Nobody and nothing is safe from abuse or trolling, and it’s just something that we all have to deal with.

It makes you wonder as well what is going on in the mind of an online abuser. They can’t be happy themselves to be writing abuse, and it does not get them anywhere in life or make them achieve anything. A lot of it, I think, is down to jealousy, which is why people do what they do. In one of my podcasts with a well-known YouTuber called Richard Vobes, there were a number of other psychics and mediums that wrote some very unkind content.

Feeling alone in your beliefs:

There are plenty of people out there that are like-minded also there are plenty of development circles and spiritual groups that you can join and some of them are online so you can be anywhere in the world and be able to join a development circle or group.

To summarize everything I really want to say don’t let anybody pull you down or make you feel that you can’t do what you do or try and put you off by sending or writing Abusive content at the end of the day will never get anywhere with what they do And proves how much of a coward they actually are when they don’t show their face or use a completely made up name.

Be strong and don’t even bother reading the content that some of them write or say.